Managers should ask these questions every week

When’s the last time you sat down with a list of your direct reports and asked yourself what they need, what they’re struggling with, and what growth for them that week could look like?

Chances are, the answer is either never or it was a long time ago.

Weeks go by fast, I get it. But just as Cal Newport argues for regular, dedicated, focused, “deep work” time in his book Deep Work, you need that same sort of intentional management time focused on your team and their needs that week.

Something to try this week: Make a grid of your direct reports’ names and answer these questions for each of them:

  1. What do they need this week? This isn’t about what tasks they need to do; it’s about what resources they need. It can mean taking something off their plate to focus on more important tasks, a day off due to approaching burnout, or simply recognizing a job well done. Figure that out, then get it for them.
  2. What are they struggling with? This may be a more complicated question to answer, and you may get it wrong. Many employees don’t bring up challenges with their managers, so you’re often left guessing. But ask the question to yourself, then ask them in a check-in, “Hey, I get the sense/wonder if you’re struggling with X. Is that true?” It could open the door to a really important conversation.
  3. How are they progressing in their role and career, and what challenge can I give them this week? This isn’t about their day-to-day tasks, but rather about them progressing as a person. It’s tempting to focus solely on immediate deliverables, but your people have aspirations and growth goals that deserve attention too.

That’s it: just three questions to ask about your team this week. Don’t wait until the performance review to have these conversations. As a manager, you have a duty to spend intentional management time thinking about them and their needs.

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